(Inspired by ‘Advice, like youth, probably just wasted on the young.’ By Mary Schmich (later released as Baz Luhrman’s ‘Everybody’s Free To Wear Sunscreen’.)
Before continuing into the next stage of my life, I would like to pass on this message for anyone who felt like I did as a teenager. This is advice made up of my experience of life so far:
If you’re not enjoying your teens, it’s ok. They are often referred to as the ‘best days of your life,’ but they are also the worst.
You may think you’re a mature adult with a real perspective on life, you’re not and you don’t but that’s normal; you’re perspective will change over time in such a way that your perceptions as a teenager won’t make sense anymore.
Happiness isn’t easy; work to find it in the little things in life because that’s what’ll keep you going.
Everything you’re going through is worth it, the harder the lesson’s the more you learn. Everything you learn now will prepare you for the rest of your life and all the pain that is undoubtedly still to come.
Friends are the family you choose, so choose wisely. As you take the first steps into the next stage of your life, you will meet some amazing influential people and some equally as bad. Hold on to the ones you’ve got now, they were the one’s there for you at your lowest and most unreasonable and the ones most likely to stick around.
Don’t rely on others to be happy, only you can save you from yourself. And you can.
Always leave room for your opinions to change, but if you believe in something stand by it.
It’s all right to feel different and alienated, it happens suddenly almost overnight, but everyone will want to be different soon.
If you don’t look the way that society expects you too, own it. There will always be someone who thinks you’re beautiful, usually for every reason society says you’re ugly.
Don’t let others brush your feelings off as just hormonal angst, everything you’re feeling is real and matters; but always keep in mind that it won’t be like this forever.
Appreciate that you’re being unfair and disrespectful to your parents, but that’s what being a teenager is for and they understand that. Always remember to take time out to thank them for everything they’ve done for you.
Never forget your lowest of lows, it allows you to fully appreciate the highs.
Do everything for yourself, don’t ever do something because you think it’s expected.
Experiment with all the drugs you want, but research them first and with people you trust and feel comfortable with.
Don’t mess with your hair too much, it’s natural state probably suites you just fine.
Spend as much time outside as possible, nature is great and it will make you happy.
Be true to everyone that you are and respect that others are doing the same.
Be the best you can be, because that’s the best you can do.
And don’t worry; it does get better.